01 Oct Defiant & Defensive (MRT)
Consistently taking a defiant and defensive stance against your spouse when they are rightly opposing an action or inaction that finds you in the wrong, will eventually leave your spouse feeling frustrated and hopeless about being able to work with you to resolve any of the conflicts and challenges that you two are having within your marriage.
Therefore, instead of becoming defensive and defiant towards your spouse, learn to listen through the discomfort and anguish that the situation will bring to you, and allow your spouse to find comfort and peace, knowing that you are willing to correct your wrong actions or inactions to make your marriage better.
Consider the following passages of scripture:
James 1:19 (ESV) – Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
Hebrews 12:11 (ESV) – For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
James 4:17 (ESV) – So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
James 4:1 (ESV) – What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?
Romans 12:18(ESV) – If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
You can also read the following additional passages of supporting scripture
Ephesians 4:26, Galatians 5:16, Ephesians 4:31, Galatians 5:22-23, Proverbs 29:20, Proverbs 3:30, Mark 9:50, and 2 Corinthians 13:11
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