30 Aug 3 Small Steps Towards Better Communication
Better communication skills should be a primary goal in your marriage. You and your spouse will need to learn how to communicate with each other about things that matter (and the things that don’t matter) without going to war with each other. The following are three small steps that you can use to help you with the goal of better communication.
1. How we listen is vital.
Learn to listen without taking offense to what is being said to you. We can all get our feelings hurt when we receive negative feedback, no matter how well the information is presented to us. James C. Petersen in his book Why Don’t We Listen Better, explains how we can put this vital skill into practice. I have read this book myself and it has helped me to listen to my wife without letting what she has said get me in an uproar.
2. Stop the name calling.
Name calling will not get your point across any better than just plainly saying what you have to say in a none combative way. Name calling will only increase the level of intensity of the conversation in a negative way. Try telling your spouse about how the topic that you are talking about is affecting you, such as I get really frustrated when you forget to kiss me when you leave for work.
3. Pray before you talk.
This by all means should be in the number one position because of its importance. However, I chose to make it the last step so that you could think about prayer with the first two steps already in mind. Inviting God into your marriage through prayer is where change begins. Ask God to give you the ability to speak the right words and to say them in the right way before presenting any challenging conversation to your spouse. You can also pray and ask that your spouse would receive what you have to say without difficulty.
There you have it, Three Small Steps to Better Communication
Consider the following scriptures –
1 Peter 5:7 (ESV) – casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.
Proverbs 15:1 (ESV) – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 29:11 (ESV) – A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
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