24 Jan Best Marriage Advice
The Color of Marriage Devotional
Today’s Devotion – BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE
Have you ever asked the question, what is the best marriage advice that you can give, to a married couple whom you believed had a strong biblical marriage that was worth emulating? I know I have, on many occasions, especially during the times when things were not going so well in our marriage. Thank God, that has changed tremendously, and now my wife and I are able to offer some of the best marriage advice to others because of the experiences that we have gone through in our own marriage. In today’s devotion, I would like to share with you the best marriage advice that you and your spouse should know, especially if you are going through difficult moments in your marriage right now. Now, that doesn’t mean that this best marriage advice does not apply to you if you’re not having difficult moments in your marriage at this time, because sooner or later, this best marriage advice that we will be offering, will apply to all marriages at one time or another.
So, what is this best marriage advice that you have to offer? The question you may be asking yourself right now. Well, here it is, the best marriage advice that we have for you today is about the 3 ways you can give in marriage.
We are always giving in our marriages at one time or another and here are some of the ways that we are giving. Giving each other a hard time. Giving each other a piece of our mind. Giving each other the silent treatment. Giving each other the cold shoulder, and the giving list could go on about how we negatively give in our marriages. I know that this doesn’t apply to everyone all the time, but it happens enough in many marriages to where the 3 ways you can give in marriage takes over, and you don’t want these to happen in your marriage, except for the last one, of course.
When you negatively give in your marriage a new set of unwanted circumstances, as I mentioned above, begin to appear in your marriage. You start to construct an environment in your marriage that vanquishes the hope in your marriage and starts a downward spiral of choices that you begin to contemplate in your mind. These choices are about how you give in your marriage when all hope is gone. You usually choose one or more of these choices, but never all of them. So, the best marriage advice we can give you at this point, is to tell you about the 3 giving choices that you have and pray that God will allow you to make the best choice, and here’s a hint, it’s not choice number one nor is it choice number two.
So, here are the 3 ways that you can give in your marriage, our best marriage advice, when all hope is gone in your marriage, due to the negative giving that has taken place in your marriage over an extended period of time.
1. You can give up:
This happens when you stop trying to fix and strengthen the broken and weak areas of your marriage. This becomes your choice when you feel as though your only option is to give up and either, check out mentally from the marriage, pursue a separation, or go after the dreadful divorce. The cause of you making the choice to give up comes from you feeling defeated, discouraged, and even unvalued and unloved, as you walk around in a hopeless state because of your inability to change the situation in your marriage that’s causing you grief, heartache, frustration, and even sadness.
2. You can give in: This happens when the pressure to make the right changes in your marriage overwhelms you to the point of not wanting to do anything about them anymore, due to the resistance that you are receiving from your spouse, which has become too much for you to bear mentally and emotionally.
The cause of you making the choice to give in comes from excessive arguing with your spouse over the minor and sometimes major details of your marriage that you and your spouse just can’t seem to get resolved one way or another. When this happens, you feel like you are unheard, misunderstood, and that what you say doesn’t really matter to your spouse most of the time, so you tell yourself, what’s the point of trying anymore, so you give in, even though you’re left feeling frustrated, dissatisfied, and unable to emotionally give to the marriage anymore.
3. You can give it your all.
This is where you get your hope back and your dependency on the Lord becomes stronger than it has ever been before. This can only happen when you make an intentional daily decision to do everything that you can to fix and strengthen the broken and weak areas of your marriage through the process of Marriage Replenishment.
This is where you ask God to give you instructions from His Word, that applies to your situation, so that you can put it into action to restore your marriage. If you find that you can’t do this on your own, get help, but not just any help, help from those whom God will send your way to pray for your marriage, care for your marriage, and see you through the difficult moments of your marriage. Seek a good Christian marriage counselor, a good friend, or again, those whom God will send your way through your local church body or any other place or resource that will get you back on course to a God centered marriage.
Making the choice to give it your all will cause you to not want to be content with just getting by in your marriage anymore but wanting to make your marriage the best that it can be. This can only happen again, with God’s grace and God’s power and resources.
Replenish your marriage today.
Key Passage of scripture:
Psalm 27:14, Proverbs 15:1, Isaiah 40:31, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Ephesians 4:31-32, Colossians 3:8, Philippians 4:6-7, 1 Peter 3:7, 1 Peter 3:1-6, 1 Peter 3:8-12, 1 Peter 5:7, & 1 Peter 5:10
Next steps to take:
As mentioned already, you and your spouse should seek help. If your spouse is not interested in getting help at this time, this does not mean all hope is gone, what it does mean though, is this, as long as you two are married there is hope if you are willing to wait and allow God to work out your situation.
Read Lamentations 3:25
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