23 Apr Trusting God in Marriage: You Don’t Know You Trust God Until You Have To
Trusting God in Marriage: You Don’t Know You Trust God Until You Have To
Let’s Get Real: Most People Say They Trust God—Until They Can’t See a Way Out
It’s easy to trust God when the marriage is good, when love feels effortless, and prayers are being answered on time. But what happens when the love feels dry? When communication is broken? When betrayal shows up, or hope starts slipping?
This is where real trust begins.
You don’t really know that you trust God in marriage until you have to trust Him. When there’s no plan B. No guaranteed outcome. No overnight fix.
🔥 Faith Is Proven in the Fire
James 1:2-4 (ESV) says:
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.”
Let’s be clear: God allows trials not to crush you, but to reveal what your faith is actually made of. You can say you trust God all day long. But until your back is against the wall in your marriage—until forgiveness feels impossible, or your spouse seems unlovable—you haven’t truly been tested.
That’s when trust becomes more than a phrase. It becomes your anchor.
🧠 Trust Is Not a Feeling—It’s a Decision
You may not feel like trusting God. You may not feel like praying, serving, or staying. But faith isn’t based on feelings—it’s a decision to obey even when you’re uncertain.
Proverbs 3:5-6 is the banner verse for many Christian homes, but let’s look at it with fresh eyes:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
The moment you start leaning on your own understanding in your marriage—your own logic, your own defense mechanisms, your own backup plan—you stop trusting.
🚫 Trusting God in Marriage Is NOT…
- Ignoring red flags or abuse
- Pretending everything’s fine
- Rescuing your spouse from consequences
- Controlling or manipulating the outcome
Trusting God in marriage means:
✅ Doing what He says, even when it’s hard.
✅ Praying even when you feel unheard.
✅ Believing He’s working, even when you can’t see results.
✅ Choosing obedience over emotional comfort.
🛑 When Everything in You Wants to Walk Away
Let’s be honest. There are moments when staying faithful feels foolish. When you’re tired of giving, tired of waiting, tired of hurting.
But this is exactly the moment when your trust in God either becomes real… or it fades.
Psalm 34:18 reminds us:
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
If your marriage has pushed you to the point of breaking—good. That’s where the power of trusting God shows up. When you run out of your own strength, you make room for His.
💡 What Happens When You Really Trust God?
When you trust God in marriage—even when it’s painful—miracles can happen:
- Bitterness begins to break.
- Hearts soften.
- Communication opens up.
- Healing takes root.
- And even if your spouse doesn’t change—you do.
✝️ Final Word: Stop Saying You Trust God—Live Like You Do
You don’t know you really trust God until you have no choice but to. And marriage will give you that opportunity—again and again.
But that’s not a curse. It’s a gift. A chance to draw closer to the only One who can truly transform your heart and your home.
“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord.” — Jeremiah 17:7
✅ Your Next Step
If you’re struggling to trust God in your marriage, don’t do it alone. Get honest. Get prayer. Get help. And most of all—lean into the God who sees, hears, and restores.
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Together, let’s keep trusting—even when it’s hard.
Especially when it’s hard.
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